A new Joint Base Lewis McChord soldier shares his experience with FOCUS for Couples. He explains how the sessions built on one another and helped him and his wife learn new strategies for communication.

As a new soldier to JBLM, I was alerted to the FOCUS program at the American Lake Conference Center.  It was described as 6 sessions for a couple and 8 sessions for a family and it is not therapy or counseling.  My wife and I got so much out of our time at FOCUS.  Each session builds on the previous one.  We knew going in we wanted to work on communication.

This gave us a starting point to tell our FOCUS Resilience Trainer, and from there it really took off.

I can remember the first session of understanding how the thermometer connects to how you are feeling, and the great use of the white board and homework assignments.  Through all six sessions, we built on the last one and learned so many skills to try and better our communication as a couple.  During the whole program of FOCUS there is no judgements or mandatory homework, this is for you as a couple or a family.

I would strongly recommend this program to anybody in the military.  It is a great resource, that we have here on JBLM.


The FOCUS program is designed for military families, couples and children facing ongoing stress and change. It is easily customized to meet the unique needs of each family, couple, or group in order to help them achieve their personal and relationship goals. These blog posts from real FOCUS Families describe their experiences with the program.